There is a common misconception out there that I want to talk about. Bdsm does not mean SEX. Domme does not mean I provide Escort services. Simple! Most of my submissives will not ever see my naked body let alone ever touch me. Each play partner dynamic has its own set of limits and boundaries and some couples/partners do have Great sexual encounters during their play. Bdsm does not equal sex and Domme does not equal Full service, simple!
The mental aspect of bdsm play is so vital, an integral part of any play. The ability for one to let their mind be free to explore and evolve all natural aspects of what our mind imagines and desires with out judgement or prejudice. That can be accomplished through humiliation, corporal punishment, bondage and thousands of other types of fetish play.
What it is not is: A guise in which to have sex with multiple partners whenever you please. Nor is it a way for which one can use sex for monetary gain. Sadly, many of those ignorant to the lifestyle or those that want to exploit the loyalty of another, purely for physical sexual gratification. Absolutely, sexual under and even overtones may be incorporated in the play (depending on the dynamics) but this is truly not 'the reason for the season".
The ability to open your mind and allow yourself to admit your desires and needs. To trust another to share in this journey is huge. Taking acts, thoughts and insinuations and using them to fuel that ember in your mind. Pushing limits on this kind of play. To expand your thoughts and expand your realm of possibilities. Finding new triggers of mental and physical delight, pain or both. Those ideas and thoughts are the core of bdsm and YES, the result is an open interpretation of what your mind and body enjoys. This great feeling does bring a sexual awareness and desire that should be met with proper planning and communication as to the best mix for each different dynamic.
Most femdommes may agree but I will only speak for myself, Any sub, slave even slut I may own is not worthy of touching me at any price. It is not allowed. I may do acts ( of strong sexual under tones) that invoke feelings of humiliation so severe it drives them wild. Are we seeing the difference?
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